As Tracy Clark-Flory of Salon put it, girls are more likely to be thinking during intercourse, “‘Do my breasts look OK from this angle’ instead of, ‘Wow, this position feels fantastic.’ (…)
“[S]ocial validation comes from looking a certain way so that men want to have sex with you — but you lose some of that validation if you actually have sex with men,” Hess told TheDC.
Hess added that females might feel bad about themselves after their first instance of intercourse because they feel pressure to meet beauty and purity standards of society.
“[T]he thing is that in a lot of ways, those beauty ideals and purity ideals are one and the same,” Hess told TheDC. “Women are valued as beauties for being, among other things: young, white, fresh-faced, sexy without being sexual, wholesome and altogether ‘virginal.’”
Referring to a 2009 article she’d written, Hess said that older women will sometimes try to meet these expectations by undergoing vaginal reconstructive surgery to acquire younger-looking (and feeling) genitalia.